Signs She’s Too Demanding

Committed Life

Posted by on January 9, 2016
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There’s nothing sexier than a confident woman who knows what she wants. Even more so, a woman who’s decisive and who isn’t afraid to be her naturally independent self.

However, there’s also a fine line between a woman who possesses those incredibly appealing attributes and one who’s overbearing and too demanding of the men she dates.

Here are a couple of signs the woman you’re with now is too demanding, and why you should probably walk away now before things get any worse for you.

Everyone Has To Be On Her Level
Whether it’s expecting everyone to fall in-line with her schedule when it comes to events she puts together or believing everyone must always agree with her line of thinking, it can be kind of unsettling to be with a woman who expects everyone to always be on her level and not their own. And since you’re the one who’s in a relationship with her, you often get the worst of that treatment and the highest of those expectations.

Maybe it’s in her nature to have those kinds of high standards for herself, but those standards should never be forced on anyone else. What’s more, those high standards should never be at the expense of anyone else’s quality of life or their schedules.

But if she firmly believes in living her life that way, and treating you and everyone else in that same manner, then she could very well get what she wanted all along. Which is a life where everything is the way she wants it ―only she wouldn’t have anyone else in her life that would cater to those demands. Not even you.

She Never Lets Things Go
The only thing worse than a woman who expects everyone else to live up to her demanding expectations is a woman who never wants to let things go.

There will be times when you want to attend certain special events, and there will be instances when you’re just too tired to do anything else but stay in for the night and rest. Which means there will be times when you’ll be unable to make an event she wants you to attend, or to be part of. And the same goes for your friends as well as her own.

But when she takes every declined invitation as a personal insult, that can be cause for a major concern now and down the line for the both of you. If she’s unwilling to accept that people have their own lives to live, other events to attend, and their own sets of family and friends they want to be with, then she’ll also be unwilling for you to have your own life. Moreover, be okay with you doing the things that you enjoy that she may not, and with the family and friends you enjoy being around whom she despises.

However, if that is the case, and she’s incredibly fast to blacklist any and everyone who doesn’t adhere to her demanding nature, then maybe you should be just as fast to blacklist her. And let her go on her incredibly demanding way.

Her Demanding Ways Will Only Get Worse Over Time
There’s a timeless credo when it comes to assessing whether someone’s ideal for you to be in a long term relationship with, and eventually marriage. That credo involves you seriously thinking about the least favorable things about the person you’re dating, and magnifying them ten times more. Because those unfavorable things about that individual will only continue to progress and get worse over time. Subsequently, those will be the unfavorable traits you would have to live with about that person as long as the two of you are together―and especially if, or when, the two of you are married.

The good news is people can change if they’re willing to listen to how their actions―and their approach to everything―impacts and affects others. Which is why it’s important that you have serious conversations with the woman you’re with about her overly demanding nature.

It’s not only an unhealthy way for her to live life and to treat others, but it’s also a sure-fire way for her to never find happiness in anything or with anyone.

If she’s willing to always be overly demanding of everyone else, then she should be more than willing to be just as overly demanding of herself to recognize the error in her ways. Further, to recognize that she can be better―and can do better―to treat others much more reasonably. Even the man she’s in a relationship with.