It can sting a lot when some of your work colleagues are either getting recognized for their hard work, or they’re getting promoted while you continue to be overlooked. It stings even more when you have to grin and bear it in order to pretend that it doesn’t affect you or your psyche.
But you’re already taking the right first step by accepting those feelings of disappointment―especially in those instances when you’re not recognized for your efforts like some of your other work colleagues typically are. Your next step should be to not feel jealous of your work colleagues for the opportunities they were presented with―and here’s why.
Windows Of Opportunities Are Closed For A Reason
As much as you would like for every potential career opportunity that presented itself to be geared towards you, and your professional aspirations, not all of them will be meant for you.
For example, if you’ve been working incredibly hard for a promotion to a leadership or management position, would you seriously be ready and willing to take the first leadership or management opportunity that opened up even if it’s not challenging enough for you? Or, what if it required you to work under more stressful circumstances than what you may be encountering already?
Some opportunities that are not awarded to you may not have been the ideal move for you or for your career. Although accepting a promotion with a higher job title than the one you may currently have now may look good on your resume and on your LinkedIn profile, you need to truly assess whether that opportunity will truly help your career as well as your mental and social well-being. Not to mention, the mental and social well-being that could potentially impact those you care about most―like your family.
There Are Better Opportunities In Store For You
There will be opportunities where you’ll make the difficult decision to decline a new job offer with hopes of a better opportunity to come along. Those instances when you decide to decline an opportunity―and someone else decides to accept it instead―should never be any cause for concern or remorse on your part. Even if that same opportunity you passed on seemed to work out well for the person who accepted it, and your own career circumstances haven’t changed all that much since you declined that opportunity.
It can be hard to remain confident that another opportunity will come along that’s better than the previous one you passed on. However, you should never second-guess yourself when you decide to trust your own instincts and turn down a career opportunity. There was a good reason why you felt the need to decline that opportunity in the first place, so you should never look back on that decision.
Often at times, people tend to ignore their own subconscious thoughts about passing up another job opportunity. As a result, they often choose to accept that “different” job alternative, and they usually find themselves in a worse job situation than they were in before.
It’s okay to reflect on every career decision you make, but you shouldn’t dwell or regret them.
Sometimes, each of us has a habit of making a rash decision and tricking ourselves into believing we made a logical choice―because that choice yielded an outcome that was different from our current circumstances. But later on, we discover that choice wasn’t the one we should’ve made all along, and it only made our circumstances that much worse.
So always remember to be honest with yourself―and about your circumstances―so that you don’t make things worse for yourself. Because some career paths you may not necessarily want to go down.
Jealousy Is A Sign Of Insecurity
Although it may not seem like it, there will always be more than enough opportunities, more than enough awards, and more than enough adulation to go around for everyone when it comes to work life. So being jealous of another work colleague’s opportunities would be counterintuitive and counterproductive to your own career opportunities. What’s more, that jealousy would only reveal you to be someone who’s mentally insecure about their own career potential and aspirations.
You were given a unique blend of skill sets and professional attributes that differs from one professional to the next. Which means the career opportunities that are meant for you will match the same unique blend of skill sets and attributes you possess. And no one else.
Which is something you should always bear in mind the next time a career opportunity presents itself that you were either overlooked for, or that you have second thoughts about declining. It just might be the difference between finding yourself in better career circumstances that create waves of new opportunities in the future for you―versus career circumstances that offer you limited opportunities, or none at all.
So never be jealous of another work colleague’s opportunities because their career path will be far different from yours. And yours could be far better for you―and much better than theirs―in the long run.